How Saying “No” to My 9-5 Became Saying “Yes” to Myself

Written by Dr. Geralyn Dexter

Photo by Nastuh Abootalebi on Unsplash

How Saying “No” to Corporate Became Saying “Yes” to Myself

I’ve always been a gal with big goals.

As a young person, I knew what I wanted to study (psychology) and that I wanted to grow up and use my knowledge and experience to help others. So, I got a few degrees, became licensed, and set out on my path.

I worked as a clinician for a long time. It was challenging and deeply satisfying work, but started to feel like I wanted to make a bigger impact. So, I did what any gal would do: I left the world of non-profits to enter the corporate arena because they have more funding and reach, and well, it wrecked me.

Corporate wasn’t all bad. I did some amazing work at the mental health startups where I was employed. But, I quickly came to realize that the promotions and high pay came at a cost… to me.

Climbing the corporate ladder took me further and further away from the actual work. As a leader, I felt disconnected from the tasks that aligned with my values.

The days got longer. The demands grew heavier. The environment became more and more stressful, even toxic. What’s worse, I stayed, even when it exacerbated my health issues, damaged my relationships, and tanked my self-esteem.

Every time I wanted to ask for a break or a day off, I reminded myself of the mission, the people the organization was serving, and the all-hands-on-deck speeches my boss would give.

Finally, something my partner said finally clicked. Every time I said “yes” to corporate, I was saying “no” to myself. Essentially, I was saying “no” to my family and friends, to rest, to my hobbies (which were non-existent at the time), and ultimately, my goals.

I’ve always loved writing and mental health. In fact, while in corporate, I’d freelance on the side (when I could find the time), which allowed me to work on projects that married my interests. I found meaning in sharing information about psychology and well-being, and I realized that I could earn money doing it in a way that allowed me to focus on my health, goals, and values.

So, after 8 long years, I decided to hang corporate up for good, and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.

By saying “no” to corporate, I get to say “yes” to slow mornings, long walks outside, prioritizing my health and relationships, choosing projects I care about, contributing in a way that feels meaningful and creates value for others, traveling, and, my favorite… reading again.

Has it been an adjustment? Yes.

Is being a freelancer challenging? Certainly.

Am I still terrorized by some of the horrors I experienced in corporate? Absolutely.

Was it worth it? Hell yes. Nothing has felt more freeing than putting my dreams, passions, and projects first.

What are you saying “no” to so you can start making room for your “yes”? Comment below!